15 deep questions to ask yourself when you feel frustration
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What do I feel frustrated about?
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Do I feel like my contribution is not valued?
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Did somebody else’s actions negatively affect me?
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Did somebody else make a decision for me?
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Am I feeling like there is nothing I can do to make the situation better?
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Am I feeling like my needs are not being met today?
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Am I feeling like I’m not in control of my own life?
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Am I feeling like I am not in control of the situation?
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Is there something in the environment that is triggering my frustration?
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Do I need help with this work?
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Is this work difficult or easy for me?
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Does this work involve creativity and the task feels too repetitive?
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Was someone given an opportunity before me?
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Did I make a mistake or did someone else finish my work for me?
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Did I have the opportunity to finish a task I was working on?
7 tips on how to deal with frustration
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Visit a friend or family member you haven't seen in a while, or do something to show your support for them. For example, if you have a friend who is having a hard time at work, you could bring them dinner on Friday night or take a walk with them and have an honest conversation about their frustrations.
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Try to see friends more regularly instead of waiting for "special occasions" like birthdays and holidays that can make things feel more
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Try the ABC technique: Acknowledge, Blame, Cancel. Acknowledge what has happened and the feelings you have about it; blame yourself, or others if appropriate; and cancel whatever behavior is not working for you and replace it with a more productive one. If you find that this technique does not help solve any underlying issues, seek professional help from a therapist or psychologist.
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If you are on the other end of the spectrum, be there for your friends who might not be coping as well as you are to provide support and encouragement.
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Get some fresh air.
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Get back to basics.
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Create a list of your accomplishments. List all the things you are grateful for in your life and the differences you’ve made in other people’s lives.
How frustration affects you
Frustration is a state of feeling that you cannot accomplish what you want. It is usually caused by being stuck in a difficult situation and unable to see any quick way out of the problem. It can have different levels of intensity, from mild to intense.